All is Fair in Love and War...Or Is It Really?

We heard it so many times before and never question it. Some of us believe it through and through. All is fair in love and war or is it really? I am not a pessimist by nature but I chose not to believe in this one adage.

Life is never fair. Take love for an example. It takes a small miracle for you to be in love with each other. You have to be in love with each other at the right time and at the right place for this miracle to happen. You cannot say that you are in love with Hugh Jackman when in fact you have never met him [ sob ]. You only dream to be in love with him. And when love fails? It will hurt both of you, no matter whose fault it was. All is fair does not apply here.

What about war? In my adult lifetime I have 'seen' so many wars. The Gulf war, USA vs Iraq, USA vs Afghanistan, Bosnia vs Serb, Palestine vs Israel and so forth. Can we sincerely believe that all is fair in war? What about those Palestinians fighting with stones against the Jews with machines? Or the raping of the Bosnian women in the ethnic cleansing? Is it fair to the victims who were attacked by the phosphorus bombs? Unless you are fighting with each other on the same and equal ground, then it is fair. To quote Radovan Karadzic ,' it is a just and holly war', makes me squeamish in my seat. When 100,000 bosnian were massacred just because they were Muslims...it definitely not a just war!

Otherwise do not give the pre-emptive, weapon of mass destruction and other lame excuses for you to go into war. I won't buy it. Nobody wins in a war. It only brings pain....lots of it.