To give your children the best

Every parent wants to give the best to their children. They want to give the best education, material things, spouse and everything else. Who can blame them? Sometimes, what is best to the parents, might not be the best for the children. I have a friend who has everything, so to speak, but he told me that he loves his maid more than he loves his mother. Of course the mother doesn't know this. He was in his early twenties when he told me almost 30 years ago. As far as I can remember, at that time it is not often to find a mother who is working fulltime.

. My late sister-in-law had a friend who insisted that her son took up medicine. When he graduated from Med School, he handed his degree to his parents saying this, "This is for you. Now I'm going to do what I want". The parents were speechless. Children nowadays have their own plans and dreams. We as parents only have to be there to encourage and lead them. Let them make their own mistakes in their lives. Help put their lives back together after failures.

As a parent , I know it's hard to watch your children make the same mistakes that you made years ago. You cannot be too protective over your children. Otherwise your children will not be resilient when they face hard times. What you can do is to provide your children the necessary advice, words of wisdom and guidance to face whatever challenges that lie ahead. When any untoward event happens, we can only pray that our children have the strength and courage to face the obstacles and come out strong and wiser. Then you know you have given the best to your children.